An Ordinary Day

“Jack Pines are not lumber trees and they won’t win many beauty contests either. But to me this valiant old tree, solitary on its own rocky point, is as beautiful as a living thing can be. In the calligraphy of its shape against the sky is written strength of character and perseverance, survival of wind, drought, cold, heat, disease… In its silence it speaks of wholeness, an integrity that comes from being what you are.” – Douglas Wood. Continue reading

Where’s the Best Place for a Con to Hide?

“There is something about yourself that you don’t know. Something that you will deny even exists until it’s too late to do anything about it. It’s the only reason you get up in the morning. The only reason you suffer the shitty boss. The blood, sweat, and the tears. This is because you want people to know how good, attractive, generous, funny, wild, and clever you really are. Fear or revere me, but please think I’m special. We share an addiction. We’re approval junkies. We’re all in it for the slap on the back and the gold watch, the hip, hip, hoo-fucking-rah. Look at the clever boy with the badge, polishing his trophy. Shine on, you crazy diamond, because we’re just monkeys wrapped in suits, begging for the approval of others. If we knew this, we wouldn’t do this. Someone is hiding it from us, and if you had a second chance you would ask, why?” – Jake Green, Revolver. Continue reading

Valentine’s Day Sucks.

Whether you’re single or in a committed relationship, these days I think most people agree that Valentine’s Day is a bit of a toss.

No-one knows the exact origins of Valentine’s Day. There are suggestions it began in ancient Rome with the feast of Lupercalia, which occurred annually in mid-February. This feast involved naked drunken men sacrificing goats and whacking single women with the hides. After the whacking, the men randomly drew the names of single women from a jar and were ‘coupled’ with them. Continue reading

The Rhythm of Love

What’s truly important when it comes to those 3 little words?

Having been unattached for many months now, I must say, it’s nice to get the rhythm of my own life back. It isn’t nice to begin with, of course – this period is a real kick in the guts! But relationships fall apart because they are no longer good for us. Continue reading

Let the Seeds Grow as They Will

Attachment, podcasts, grey hairs and how everything changes at 37.

Over the weekend I listened to a Jack Kornfield podcast on the subject of attachment. Podcasts are a strange new world for me, I used to hate them with a passion. And I’m not one to use the word hate lightly. For starters, there’s no control over the pace of learning…it requires a tonne of patience which is not a virtue I possess. Secondly, I’ve always been a highly visual learner. But when I hit 37 this year, that suddenly changed. Continue reading

Cleaning Out the Closet

Today I spent half my day spring (or winter) cleaning my bedroom. Already a fairly neat room, this meant going through cupboards and examining everything with a harsh do I really need this? viewpoint. Being a bit of a closet hippy, the reason behind the big clean-up was to shift old non-physical energy, by clearing out physical junk. Perhaps all in my head, but if it works, does it matter if it’s a placebo? Continue reading